It’s okay to not fit in. That’s what’s going to make you a leader one day.

Have you ever felt like an outsider? Or maybe you’ve always felt different than others?

Feeling different can feel pretty isolating at times, but a recent guest on my podcast, Haley Cole, shared the following words of wisdom when she was asked about what her inner child needed to hear most:

“It’s okay to not fit in.” “It’s ok to be an outsider because that’s what’s going to make you a leader one day.” 

Haley is entrepreneur, ENFP, intuitive artist, clairvoyant, and the owner of Golden Light Healing, where she certifies energy healers and golden light healers. 

If you’ve been awakening to your intuitive gifts and you’re aware that you’re on a spiritual journey (and you’ve been wanting to take a deeper dive into spirituality) this episode is just for you.

Join us on this episode, as Haley shares about the importance of honoring yourself, defining the Clairs (psychic senses), Lemuria, past-life regressions, the rise in divine feminine, and the activations that are occurring this year (hint hint, more abundance!) 

 We have so much to look forward to this year! Whether that’s finances shifting and increasing, out of the blue opportunities and miracles, or divine unions, there’s so much to be excited about.

Tune-in to the episode to hear more!

You can connect with Haley on:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamhaleycole/
• Her website: https://www.shinewithhaley.com/

If you’re an Empath or Highly-Sensitive Person looking for more 1:1 guidance on understanding your gifts, overcoming energetic overwhelm, releasing limiting beliefs, and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships, then I’d love to invite you to join me in my Empowered Empath Coaching Program!

For more details on how you can apply to work with me 1:1 for private coaching, please visit: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

You are enough: How to practice radical self-acceptance as an Empath.

Has it ever been hard for you to accept yourself, quirks and all? What does radical self-acceptance mean to you as an Empath? 

My most recent podcast guest and friend, Jas Hothi, said that for him, it all comes down to how you feel about yourself (and knowing that you are enough). 

It’s about having the courage to keep being yourself (despite what others may think of you). 

Join us on this episode if you’re curious to learn more about how to get more comfortable with showing your spiritual side (and claiming the space). 

We cover everything from admitting that you’re an empath (no matter how hard it is) to sharing experiences about having people judge you when you start speaking your truth and start showing up in your authenticity. 

We also talk about the importance of finding and being supported by a like-minded community. Which is perfect because he curates INF Club, a newsletter to help INFP & INFJ writers and creatives produce, share and make an income from their work. 

He is fascinated by holistic wellbeing, loves to take the train, and enjoys listening to Avicii. 

He is currently based in SW London, England and you can find him at www.jasraj.me.

If you’re an Empath or Highly-Sensitive Person looking for more 1:1 guidance on understanding your gifts, overcoming energetic overwhelm, releasing limiting beliefs, and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships, then I’d love to invite you to join me in my Empowered Empath Coaching Program!

For more details on how you can apply to work with me 1:1 for private coaching, please visit: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

You’re not too sensitive, you’re an Empath.

Have you ever been called “too sensitive?”

Let’s bust that narrative, because you might be an Empath!

Tune-in to Naomi's audio replay of her livestream to find out which 10 signs might make you an Empath.

If you’re an Empath and you haven’t taken the Empath type quiz or better boundaries quiz (NEW!) yet, visit the link in my bio @naomicourtney.co

If you’re an Empath or Highly-Sensitive Person looking for more 1:1 guidance on understanding your gifts, overcoming energetic overwhelm, releasing limiting beliefs, and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships, then I’d love to invite you to join me in my Empowered Empath Coaching Program!

Doors close on March 31st, 2021!

For more details on how you can apply to work with me 1:1 for private coaching, please visit: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

How to harness your creativity with intuitive writing as an INFJ Empath

Have you ever been told that you’re far less serious on the inside than you appear on the outside?

That’s something that Anja, aka AS Renner, has experienced as an INFJ personality type.

Anja is an INFJ writer, coach, and the author of the novel City of Lies. Under the pseudonym Sina Jasur, she has published several non-fiction books on Minimalism, Self-Publishing on Amazon and Nutrition.

As a coach for intuitive writing, she supports creatives in finding their voice. The subscribers to her newsletter are currently receiving the free eBook "Intuitive Writing. My Seven Steps to a Finished Novel."

She is also a rockin’ mother of three (no seriously, she used to sing in a punk band, it all started when she was a lead singer in an all girl band!). She is also an Empath, Highly-Sensitive Person, an Aries (sun), Gemini (moon), and Leo (rising) from a town in Eastern Germany.

In this episode, she shares the lessons that her children have taught her, which is to let go and not put too much pressure on herself or the kids. She said that the most important thing is that her kids are happy as themselves and that the key thing is accepting that they’re different from her. This allows her to create more space to let her children have their own experiences and learn from them.

We also got deep and talked about the INFJ personality type and all of it’s contrasts.. Between getting mistaken for being extraverts (because we’re more open with the people we trust and know well) or desiring deeper and meaningful conversations with other like-minded people (that’s right, no small talk!), we INFJs know just what it feels like to be a “walking contradiction.”

Tune-in to learn more about how intuition shows up for the INFJ and how journaling can help you intuitively work through your struggles with problem solving and making decisions.

If you consider yourself creative, this is the episode for you! You’ll learn how to use your intuition to ignite your writing (thanks gut instincts, ideas, and ah-ha moments!)

We definitely talk about being empaths, going through gradual spiritual awakenings, seeking answers during hard times, seeing patterns across all religions, spiritual dreams, and common empath fears (ex. fear of being seen and being judged).

If you’d like to connect with Anja or read her book check out the following links:

Website: https://en.asrenner.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/asrenner1/

*Anja’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Stadt-L%C3%BCgen-German-As-Renner/dp/3751968822/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

***Empath Type Quiz Link: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/5f77e5e6d23d0a0014fc5110

How to Manifest Abundance While Staying True to Your Unique Self

Tired of Being Taken Advantage of as an Empath?

• We are natural over-givers in our relationships. We take on too much.
• Unequal energy exchanges (you’re the only one putting in effort and giving)
• Co-dependent relationships (watch some of my previous livestreams for more info on this)
• We neglect ourself and our own needs (we put self-care on layaway)
• This makes us feel overburdened, resentful, and overwhelmed

1. Set and maintain healthy boundaries (catch up on my previous lives to hear me talk more about healthy boundaries)
2. Take things off of your plate (there is ALWAYS something that you can slash off your list)
3. Renegotiate any agreements/commitments that are stressing you out or that don’t feel in alignment with you
4. Remedy those poor communication skills
5. Be explicit enough in expressing needs
6. Know your intentions clearly:

• How do I want to be treated? (With love, autonomy, respect)
• How do I want to feel? (Empowered, independently, confident, cherished, happy)
• What don’t I want to feel + experience?
• Anything out of alignment with this needs to be addressed or needs to go
• Always take note of how you physically and emotionally feel around people/situations
• Your body is like an instrument, constantly sending signals to you, giving your signs
• Check the energy that other people are projecting your way (and what you’re projecting their way)
• Decide to not experience what other people are experiencing (tell them what your energetic boundaries are)
• Release the need to save everyone, you just can’t

• Serve yourself first
• Honor your intentions
• Stay away from things not in alignment with those intentions you set

Victim Vs. Growth Mindset: Where Do You Stand?

Many empaths struggle with victim mentality. People struggling with victim mentality do typically see themselves as a victim. We don’t want to be there, but we do when we become consumed by our fear-based thoughts.

Get ready for some tough love (in the most compassionate way). Let's go over some key signs of having a victim mentality:

• Poor me attitude
• Focused on what others are doing to you
• Difficulty taking responsibility for one’s own role in their disempowerment
• The perception that people are always against you
• Blaming others for not meeting our needs
• Constantly complaining or venting about life and how you can’t do anything to change your situation

Many factors play into the reason why empaths struggle with victim mentality (ex. co-dependent relationships, past trauma, etc.), but discernment plays a huge role in whether we are operating in victim vs growth mentality as empaths.

Many of us empaths struggle with discernment. But what is discernment exactly?

Discernment: The ability to judge well, distinguishing what is right/wrong for you. It’s the ability to determine the difference between what your truth is and what a lie is.

When we grew up as empaths, we often found ourselves being taught to not trust our intuition by our caregivers or the adults around us.

Maybe your insights got you in trouble and it led you to seek out validation from others and to be fearful of making decisions that felt good to you and your inner knowing.

We might’ve even ended up in a codependent relationship because we can’t trust our own feelings. This big hot mess of disempowerment probably skyrocketed us into fear and a victim mindset. Then we start to think:

• Will I ever be able to trust my gut?
• Why can’t I have a mutually satisfying relationship that allows me to feel freedom and autonomy as an individual who is capable of making their own decisions?
• Will I ever be able to speak my truth and stand strong in what I believe in based on my own judgement?
• Can I actually feel the fear and accomplish things anyway?
• Will I feel unfulfilled and disempowered forever?
• I’ve already tried so hard and it never works

It’s crucial for empaths to validate themselves from within. You are worthy because you are. Not because of anything external you do or achieve. Not because of how proud you make your loved ones.

Once you learn discernment, you’ll be able to trust in your own feelings and intuition more. And with this strong inner trust, you’ll be able to feel more empowered and you will start to trust your ability to achieve a lot more than you think you can.

In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), we like to use the formula for success. This refers to the idea that being at cause is greater than being in effect (results are greater than reasons).

Empowerment means moving from being in effect to being at cause. If something isn’t working for you (in an area of life), it’s likely that you’re being at effect or something or something. The responsibility is always on you (harsh truth). You have to do the work for yourself.

I’d love to invite you to join me in the Empath Empowerment Coaching Course. Join me for this 8-week, 1:1 coaching program for empaths who want to understand their gifts, overcome energetic overwhelm, release limiting beliefs, and build better boundaries in their relationships.

*For more details on how to work with me, please visit this link: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

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It’s Not You, It’s My Self-Worth.

Join Naomi for an audio replay of her livestream on the topic of empaths and self-worth.

Many of us empaths have commitment issues. In our relationships, career, and with time and money. It can be hard for us to commit to something just for ourselves (especially because we ALWAYS think of others first).

Somewhere along the journey, we started to believe that we were not worthy of investing in and pouring life back into ourselves.

The following mindset blocks that pop up in our head are:

• I have no time to commit to myself when I’m taking care of everybody else
• I can’t afford to spend time or money on myself because I need to make sure everybody else is covered first
• I don’t believe I can actually get what I want (because I always get what’s left over after everybody else is served first/I just have bad luck)
• I already feel overwhelmed
• I need to check in with partner/husband/wife/parent/etc. before I can make decisions about committing to anyone else
• There are many factors that come into play that create our commitment issues (ex. Difficulty trusting others, past relationship trauma, etc.)

But our self-worth plays a HUGE role!

Let’s clear up some definitions around self-worth, because we see this term being used interchangeably with words like self-confidence, etc. (they’re related but different).

Self-worth: A sense of one’s own value as a human being.

Self-esteem: Confidence and satisfaction in oneself (how you feel about yourself overall).

Self-confidence: Confidence in one’s powers and abilities.

Self-love: Love of self, an appreciation of one’s own worth or virtue.

Here’s how a lack of self- worth shows up in our relationships as empaths:

• Past trauma doesn’t allow you to fully trust your partner fully + you end up unconsciously/consciously self-sabotaging yourself + the relationship
• Over-giving, poor boundaries, saying yes too much, and taking too much on
• Self-sacrifice until the point of energy depletion
• Fear of conflict + people pleasing
• Fear of speaking your truth
• Fear of being rejected
• Trying to fit the mold (trying to chameleon ourselves) to our partner/family/loved ones, when we are in fact wired very differently

So, if you’re an empath looking for 1:1 guidance with releasing limiting beliefs like these, then having an NLP Life coach could be a very useful tool for you to help you step back into your personal power as an empath!

I’d love to invite you to join me in the Empath Empowerment Coaching Course. Join me for this 8-week, 1:1 coaching program for empaths who want to understand their gifts, overcome energetic overwhelm, release limiting beliefs, and build better boundaries in their relationships.

*For more details on how to work with me, please visit this link: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

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Conflict isn’t bad, it’s necessary.

Join Naomi for her livestream audio replay on the topic of empaths and the fear of conflict.

I share my story on how I used to be deathly afraid of conflict as an empath growing up + in my adulthood. I used to allow myself to be mistreated and taken advantage of (i.e., I was painfully shy, had a hard time speaking up, and let others walk all over me just so I wouldn’t upset the other person or start conflict in fear of being rejected or abandoned).

Example: As a kid, I would discuss my ideas/insights with someone and they’d repeatedly take it and pass it off as their own because I didn’t typically share/speak up (and I wouldn’t say anything or confront the person/problem, then I would feel resentful).

These lessons continue to present themselves in adulthood (it’s normal for all of us). The same lessons will repeat themselves until we’ve finally learned them).

So here's the uncomfortable part. Someone in the online coaching space started copying/duplicating my work, passing it off as their own, and trying to sell it (thanks repeated life lessons).

First, I gave myself space to process my emotions (disappointment, frustration) because it showed me where my boundaries were, CLEARLY.

It was hard to process, because this person actually received a session from me for the same service that they were trying to pass off as their own (I mean, down to using the exact name of my service + what it entails ya'll). Ouch.

I was really hesitant to discuss this today because I was worried about hurting this person's feelings. And while I think people need to be held accountable, I also think cancel culture can be pretty messy and my intention is not to smother this person's light or harm them back.

I know that they can do better and create their own work (they've got it in themselves, they are a powerful creator). Scratching your head in confusion there? I bet you're wondering, "Why are you fuming, Naomi?" Well, I still have compassion for her (yep, you know what I mean if you’re an empath). I know that the copying isn't anything personal, but that it has more to do with them and what they've got going on.

Like they say in the writing community, people “rob and duplicate” as a content creation strategy. But it doesn’t mean plagiarize or steal someone’s intellectual property (that’s a boundary violation for me).

The lesson: It’s important to set and maintain boundaries, even when it’s uncomfortable to be in conflict with someone. It shows both others and yourself how you expect to be treated and what you will/will not tolerate.

It’s also important to speak your truth so you don’t minimize your self-worth and allow people to treat you in just any old way.

Sometimes is conflict petty and not worth bothering with when you’ve got other things to focus on? Yes. But be clear on what your boundaries are when you find yourself facing conflict.

Stronger boundaries = stronger satisfaction in the way you expect to be treated in relationships (romantic, platonic, family).

These types of misconceptions are deeply rooted in self-limiting beliefs. And self-limiting beliefs live in the subconscious mind. Which is why NLP is a great tool to release them.

*For more details on how you can work with me 1:1 for private coaching, please visit this link:

https://thatsdeepco.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

*Link to free empath type quiz: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empath-quiz/

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So What If They Judge You?

Join Naomi for a live audio replay of her livestream on the topic of empaths and the fear of being judged.

So, there’s this buzz in the online space to “show up,” or “show up and be yourself.” It can be tough for empaths to do this both in their relationships and career.

Here’s 5 common fears that empaths + highly-sensitives face on the topic of being judged:

1. Fear of being seen
2. Fear of being judged
3. Fear of being unprepared for the unknown
4. Fear of being taken advantage of, rejected, fooled, or lied to
5. Fear of being persecuted for who we truly are

This makes taking risks tough for empaths.

Here’s the real reason why this comes up for empaths:

• These fears are all rooted in deep limiting beliefs. Beliefs about what we can/can’t be/do/have.
• As an empath growing up, sometimes showing up as our true, deeply sensitive selves got us criticized or judged to begin with (persecution wound - trained us to not feel safe while being seen)
• Imposter syndrome shows up bc we’ve allowed others dictate what success looks like (despite evidence of our past successes)
• We’re recovering people pleasers and don’t want to start conflict with anyone, even if that means hiding ourselves.
• We’re highly-sensitive and attuned to the energy and emotions of others (we can sense what others are feeling about us)
• Can be uncomfortable when you’re this tuned in to the emotions (we start to absorb the feelings of others + feel like their emotional exp. is our responsibility
• If you’re an empath going through an awakening (waking up in consciousness), this forces us to face our shadow self (the parts of us that aren’t so easy to look at)

What proof of success do you have from your past that prove these fears wrong? (Because the subconscious mind needs proof.)

So, let's talk about the shadow self. This is everything that is unconscious, unexpressed, repressed, or maybe even denied. We all have a shadow self. Deep wounding (ex. childhood trauma) can come up during the healing process.

Our fears/shadows are deeply rooted in limiting beliefs (ex. “I can’t be who I truly am, they’ll judge me” or “I can’t speak my truth because I’ll upset others.” Becoming aware of your shadow self helps you accept yourself more as a whole (so you don’t project wounding onto others).

An old coach of mine once asked me, “What’s the worst that could happen?" Ok, so someone judges you. I mean, they’re probably already doing it, right? But are you still sitting here, living, breathing, and still carrying on with your life despite their judgements? Heck yes you are!

So, if you’re an empath looking for 1:1 guidance with releasing limiting beliefs like these, having an NLP coach can help you reprogram your subconscious mind.

I’d love to invite you to join me in the Empowered Empath Coaching Course. This is my signature 8-week, 1:1 private coaching program for empaths who want to understand their gifts, overcome energetic overwhelm, release limiting beliefs, and build better boundaries in their relationships.

*Link for more details: https://naomicourtneycoaching.com/empowered-empath-coaching-course/

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